She’s a good hearted woman. She’s been hurt over and over again. And you would expect her to be heartless by now but her heart is so full of love that she continues to love deeply. All she needs is a good person that will cherish her and give her heart the extra love that she deserves.
~Unknown
Solution :
The hidden tiger is hidden in the pattern on the tiger fur. Look again!
You don’t have to have sex to be a cheater. Once you start hiding text messages, lying about where you’re going and who you’re with, you’re already on your way.
Sometimes when we really love someone we overlook their toxicity or make excuses for them. It can be easy to do if the person has a history of problems and hardship. However, this is allowing that person to be just the “way they are” – negative, unhappy, angry, dramatic, etc.
The truth is, this isn’t who they are at their core. Everyone has love in their heart and the potential to live a happy, fulfilled life. Toxic people have just built walls around this and they are blocking themselves off from what they deserve. As Eckhart Tolle said in his book, The Power of Now , their “pain body” wants to feed and so it attracts experiences to allow this toxicity to expand – you being one of the victims.
With that being said, examine how this person is treating you. Look at how it has affected your life and how long this has been going on. At some level, you attracted what you are experiencing. So, the best thing to do is to look for the lesson in the pain and declare that you won’t allow this person to treat you like this anymore.
In fact, even if this person doesn’t change, their attitude around you will change. When you mindfully and verbally declare your power over this person and your future situations (releasing the fear and judgement from the past), you may notice that even though they are still be a toxic person, they won’t be around you.
One of the best things you can be in life is HONEST. Life rewards you for your honesty. While it can be difficult to confront a toxic person, because they may not even recognize their own behavior, it’s best for them and you to tell them about themselves. Prepare yourself mentally to not accept any type of rejection or upset they may spew at you. Stay strong and remember that you aren’t dealing with a level headed person right now, they are FULL of toxicity. In that toxic negative energy is also denial.
The good news is, they say denial is the first stage of acceptance. They will need time to think and absorb what you said. Give them time. If you want to, let them know you are there for them and can help them work through it. Briefly give them a few positive outlets or resources that will leave the light on for them (like Power of Positivity).
Most importantly, let them know you will no longer accept their behavior. This is where YOUR power shines through. This is where you stand up and confront what you no longer deserve.
Sometimes in these situations people tend to blame themselves for the toxic people in their life. But that’s far from the truth; they have very little to no responsibility for the behavior of others. This is mostly due to the fact that toxic people put blame on things outside of themselves – usually blaming the victim. If this is the case for you, release the need to take any responsibility for them. They have the ability to control their emotions just like anyone else. Recommend or give them “Emotional Freedom” by Judith Orloff.
Our society has been taught very little on how to control emotions, but it’s one of the biggest skills we need to learn to be happy and have great relationships with others.
When you’re down, doesn’t it feel wonderful to have someone just come give you a big hug for no other reason? Well, that’s the way most people feel. Its okay and healthy to give hugs or at the least send positive thoughts, and healing, well wishes their way. Holding on to anger, resentment or hatred will only affect you and keep you from living your happiest life.
If you can’t bear to communicate with them, then try to communicate with your higher source to send blessings their way. Remember that when someone is living a toxic, negative lifestyle, they need your positive energy the most.
Ultimately, its important to decide how you want to move forward with the toxic people in your life. It’s okay to limit a toxic relationship, but it’s also important to remember the compassionate aspect of life – that we’re all in this together and need each others’ support. It’s really best to follow your intuition and feeling toward the right direction.
You can also end a relationship with a toxic person and still be compassionate toward them at the same time. If you don’t want to speak with them, you can even just send a text, email, or write an old-fashioned letter. Sometimes it’s best to limit your communication, but if the person is really affecting you in a very negative way and you see no sign of improvement, it might be time to move on. You deserve to be treated with love and respect.
While you are detoxing and cleansing your life, it’s important to get out into nature or participate in your favorite hobby/activity that will clear your mind. Handling toxic people is not an easy tasks. Stress can build up and effect your life in a big way, unless you stop and take care of yourself. You can spend it with loved ones or completely alone. Either way, do something that completely takes your mind off of everything so you can free your spirit and cleanse your energy.
If something in your body doesn’t feel right, you should listen to this feeling before it gets any worse. A lot of people ignore subtle signs from their bodies and end up dealing with a much larger problem than they originally planned for. Your body instinctively knows when something is off balance, and those initial warning signs warrant your acknowledgment and further investigating to find out what your intuition is trying to tell you. Don’t ever hesitate to go to your wellness advocate if your inner voice starts to scream at you to take action – the human body communicates to us surprisingly often through the power of intuition.
On another note, pay attention to how you feel every time you interact with someone. Do you feel drained, anxious, or depressed? These feelings have come to the surface for a reason – by listening to yourself intuitively, you can determine which people in your life suck your energy dry, and who actually makes you feel alive.
Your intuition speaks to you in many ways, so never ignore any “off” feelings you get, no matter how subtle.
Have you ever seen the Final Destination movies, where one person out of a group of friends gets intense visions before something bad happens? These movies, whether intentionally or not, portray the uncanny role that intuition can play in perilous situations.
For instance, maybe on your weekly trip to the grocery store, someone meets your gaze and you instantly get an uneasy feeling about them. Let’s say they start to follow you discreetly around the store, and then you watch them go outside without buying anything. However, they don’t leave; instead, they wait outside the store, and you intuitively feel that by going to your car, you will put yourself in a potentially life-threatening situation. While this person may not have directly endangered you, your intuition commands you to not leave the store without telling the manager or calling the police first.
The fight-or-flight response in humans was designed to warn us of immediate danger, and move us to act on that feeling. While our gut instincts can have flaws, you should listen to them regardless – they might just save your life.
Gut instincts don’t always indicate something negative. Since we all originate from the same source, we have direct ties to each other and can sense when someone needs help. We have the powerful ability to read other people’s energy by evaluating their facial expressions, body language, or just how we feel around that person. Have you ever noticed how everyone scrambles to offer whatever help they can after a natural or man-made disaster? This strong desire to assist our fellow humans comes prewired in our evolution as a species; after all, when humans lived off the land, they depended on one another for survival. Some of them gathered wood for shelter and fire, while others wanted to help find food for themselves and others. They helped one another not just out of necessity, but because of a deep understanding that humans need to feel cared for and protected.
Offer help even if the person in question doesn’t ask for it – nonverbal cues can offer much more insight than words in these types of situations.
Overthinking can often cause problems that didn’t even exist in the first place, especially in regard to your natural talents. Maybe you have spent weeks practicing your lines for a play, and have all the hand motions, inflections in your tone, and the whole thing down pat. Then, when you get on stage for your final practice, you suddenly forget everything you worked so hard practicing. Or, maybe you have become the star player on your baseball team, but your mind runs on overdrive and puts you under pressure, making you miss every ball pitched to you at home base.
People with extraordinary talents commonly choke when it’s time for them to perform, and all of it stems from letting their minds run haywire. They pay too much attention to their thoughts, rather than letting their instincts take over. If something comes naturally to you, distract your mind with something other than the task at hand, such as a song or memory that makes you happy, and allow your instincts to take over instead.
Whether it applies to changing careers, picking your next boyfriend or girlfriend, or deciding where to live, your intuition actually plays a bigger role than rational thinking in these decisions. When you make these life-altering choices, it mostly boils down to how you feel about them. Think about it: we all just want to feel good, so we add and subtract things from our life to align with that feeling. If your career earns you $100,000 a year but makes you miserable, would you stick with it rather than take your dream job that pays $40,000? Your gut would probably tell you to do what makes you happy and take the lower paying job rather than keep one that makes you feel dead inside.
When something feels right, a lightbulb goes off inside you and it doesn’t really require much cognitive ability – it comes easily to you. Listen to your intuition next time you make an important decision – it will help you choose the right path.
According to studies conducted at the University of Connecticut’s Human Performance Laboratory, even mild dehydration can lead to a significant drop in energy levels, mood, and cognitive abilities. In the studies, dehydration affected those who had just walked for 40 minutes on a treadmill and those who sat at rest equally, meaning that humans need to stay hydrated during any activities.
“Even mild dehydration that can occur during the course of our ordinary daily activities can degrade how we are feeling – especially for women, who appear to be more susceptible to the adverse effects of low levels of dehydration than men,” says Harris Lieberman, a co-author of the study and a research psychologist with the Military Nutrition Division, U.S. Army Research Institute of Environmental Medicine in Natick, Massachusetts. “In both sexes these adverse mood changes may limit the motivation required to engage in even moderate aerobic exercise. Mild dehydration may also interfere with other daily activities, even when there is no physical demand component present.”
To figure out how much water you should drink, take your weight, divide that number by half, and drink that number of ounces of water per day.
We need constant energy throughout our day, especially for those who work highly demanding jobs and have other responsibilities outside of work. We obtain our energy mostly through the nutrients in our food, so when you skip meals, your body’s energy stores become depleted, leaving you feeling lethargic.
Make sure to eat small meals throughout the day, full of healthy, whole foods such as fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, and grains in order to keep your energy levels high and get all the nutrients you require.
Unfortunately, much of our society keeps their phones and laptops almost permanently attached to them, staying on them the majority of the day. We check our emails and Facebook notifications first thing in the morning, and repeat this ritual right before bed each night. However, various studieshave proven that exposure to the harsh blue and white lights emanating from digital devices can disrupt the chemicals in our brains, specifically the hormone melatonin. Melatonin helps control waking and sleeping cycles, so any imbalances in this vitally important hormone can cause you to lose a significant amount of sleep.
Try coming home from work and reading books or playing boardgames with your family instead of automatically scrolling through Facebook or playing Candy Crush; you will find you’ll feel a lot more relaxed, and therefore able to sleep better at night.
Related article: 10 Rituals to Guarantee a Good Night’s Sleep
Studies have shown that consuming a diet high in fat can lead to daytime drowsiness and and inability to concentrate, while following a diet high in carbohydrates has the exact opposite effect. Make sure to eat plenty of healthy carbohydrates such as fruits, brown or wild rice, and sweet potatoes, and avoid foods cooked in grease and heavy oils. While fats should make up a portion of your diet, opt for nutritious sources of fat like avocados, nuts, and seeds.
Many people think that drinking a glass of wine or two before bed will help them fall asleep faster, and while it initially works, it spikes your insulin levels, causing you to toss and turn in the middle of the night. Researchers at Brown University found that drinking alcohol in the evening hours stimulates the body and mind much more than any other time of the day. Therefore, if you do drink alcohol, make sure to consume it earlier in the day so you can have a restful night’s sleep.
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