Maybe because my parents stayed together till the end, I’ve never thought about what kids of divorced parents feel. This kid wrote a letter about it… I have no words…
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After i heard your letter..i realized the pain i give to my kids….i was separated last 2010..my eldest is 8 and my youngest is 4 yrs. Old then..my heart is broken after i separated..but most the pain i have is the feeling i gave to my kids..i dont realized..im sorry to all i’ve than..
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This truly broke my heart. I’m divorce but never had children to send through these feelings. I pray that he isn’t scarred for life due to the decision of his parents. My parents were married over 50 years and I never had to go through this. Thankfully I never had to find out. God bless all children of divorce!
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I know of someone who stayed in a love dead marriage for over 30 years. All for the sake of the children-NOT a good example of a marriage for any child. Sometimes the best thing you can do IS to get a divorce. The most important thing you can do is to put the children first and treat your ex humanely. As hard as it may be at times, just ask yourselves what is my child seeing, in me/us, how is our fighting making the kids feel? Kids blame themselves for EVERYTHING-Please THINK of the children before you react or fight.
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When the marriage is no longer working, you have two options. Stay in the marriage or get a divorce. Mess up the kids lives by getting divorced or mess up yours by staying in it. It’s your choice.
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My heart breaks for this child. He is very smart, using words I can’t even spell. I pray for that family finds a way to make it work. At least until he is out of high school.
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Someone else wrote this letter, not this boy. It was written and read for the children of divorce website to send a message. It is excellent! This boy is fantastic!!
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You are a beautiful young woman, and your life now has just begun the past will be just a hard memory. I always tell my 15 year old daughter today can be difficult but tomorrow can be AMAZING! God bless you!
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This was heart felt, but no explanation as to why the divorce occurred. There are only a couple of reasons that God has sanctioned for divorce. If your situation falls into a category of Abuse whether it’s physical or emotional or Infidelity where the offender won’t quit their behavior & receive some help one should consider divorce as a solution. The emotional fallout will be experienced by many people associated with that family. The kids must be told your reasons for divorce to avoid them taking on any responsibility. There are many years of healing that will need to take place, please seek some professional assistance so that healing can begin!
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It is so sad but all so true 😦 children feel its their fault when it’s not.
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Divorce is saying that the one you made a commitment to is not lovable or worth loving. In one of my college classes, our professor was reading to us a list of the thins that cause stress in our lives in the order of impact. When she read off death as having a greater level of stress than divorce, I told her that I disagreed. When ask to explain, I told her that we know death is inevitable even though we don’t know when it will come, but divorce is the ultimate rejection. Divorce can be avoided if we but learn to honor our commitment and love completely – wives making the husbands feel as if they are the most important thing in the world – husbands making wives feel that they are a queen, set above all others and special every day. It is only when the two that become one come to realize that they are now a team against the world that the strength may grow and bind them ever so tightly to one another. Men – marriage is not just another step in life that you accomplish, it is an every day commitment to love the woman you are joined to as deeply as the first day you met her. Women – marriage is not an endless fairy tale of romance, it is a day to day struggle filled with highs and lows – and you are often the most vulnerable to fall prey to the seductive wiles that Satan has used throughout the ages to destroy the home. Whether you’ve been married a month or twenty years, keep God as the center of your relationship to strengthen and sustain your both day by day. Marriage requires commitment from both parties and will sometimes fail in spite of your best efforts.
Should your marriage ultimately fail, and children are involved, never – ever seek to demean your ex-spouse in the eyes of the children. Your children love both of you, and as this child was saying, what you do will have a direct, life-long effect on their life. If you truly love your children and want them to be happy and healthy, encourage their relationship with your ex. Let go of the fears of losing them as they love you both, because our children have an endless capacity of love for their parents. The ability and capacity to love is only thwarted by exposure to mean, cruel, and twisted world which is devoid of love at its core.
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